The truth is, I don't have it all together. It's impossible. I'm sure I could absolutely use some major help with time management, but whomever helps me out with that needs to also give Nora the memo so she can get on board in stick to a plan too ;)
I think the point in finding balance in our faith walk while also doing motherhood, and wifehood is to follow your gut. If you need a nap, nap. If you need to hire a babysitter or a housecleaner, then do it. If the dishes sit during nap time so you can catch up on a chapter in your book, then get to them before bed, or tomorrow. Or you know, hire that housecleaner if you can.
Be intentional. I fully believe in grace upon grace upon grace. This momming gig is full-time, and obviously their needs need to be met and often ours get put on the back burner to do so. Which, of course is inevitable. BUT it's also really important to be intentional. If you need to set a reminder in your phone at the usual nap time to pull out your bible, then do that! Whatever you know will help you and be a solid reminder. I don't think it's silly to do things like this... because if you don't then you'll forever forget when you have a spare moment and it'll never happen.
Listen to worship and praise music. I really believe what we listen to has a big impact on our thought process as well. I don't think it'll come to mind to open our bible if we're only ever listening to kids shows, Super Simple Songs on YouTube, the kids bickering or whatever's on the radio. I love to put on a worship playlist and just let it play throughout the day in our home. I notice a huge difference in my patience, my attitude and then often I'll be more likely to gravitate to open up my devotional or whatever book has been collecting dust.
Be realistic. Don't set expectations for yourself that can't be done with a toddler at your feet, without the hubs around the help, or the babe who just won't nap. I think it's really good to be intentional and have a time every day to set aside for your well-being. Here are some ideas that have helped me (and some I'm really hoping to implement into my life):
- Have worship music playing throughout the day or in your headphones while you workout.
- If you're able to wake up before your littles, take just 10 minutes to pray. Like, really pray. Empty your heart to the Lord, whether it's heavy stuff, or just gratitude for your life, or for strength to make it through the day. Lay it all out and receive the goodness He wants to give you. I think it's really really good to start and end your day with prayer. I forget honestly. All. The. Time. But whenever I do I feel the goodness it brings.
- Open your Bible and read. I'm a huge proponent for paper over digital when it comes to the Bible. We're on our phones in our screens all day long. Why not take a break and actually turn the pages and fill hearts and minds with truth? You can find a bible reading plan that works for you, go through a chapter a day, or even just a verse a day that you can try memorizing throughout your day. Just be realistic and don't overcommit to more than you can really do... because at least for myself, I've noticed when I do this I end up failing a day or two, then never picking back up because guilt overrides. Keep it simple. Keep it real and whatever works best for you but do it.
- Listen to podcasts! While you're doing the dishes, while the kids play outside, while you workout. We all know that church on Sundays either doesn't happen every week, or... it's once a week; Momming is every day. Being filled with encouragement and truth outside of church is an amazing way to keep afloat throughout your days.
- Unplug. This is one I really struggle with. Especially in these past months while DJ's been away. It's SO EASY to be glued to the screen, but unplugging and clearing your head of Instagram, social media, political stuff etc., and filling your mind with a devotional, a book that challenges/encourages your faith walk, or just playing on the floor with your littles while worship music plays is REALLY good. Try it. It's very rewarding. Also you'll be so surprised at how much more you can get done when you aren't in your phone.
Be Mary in a Martha world. When Jesus was coming over, Martha was going crazy ensuring that everything was in it's place, picture perfect while Mary sat at Jesus' feet, just soaking in his presence. Let the dishes sit, let the toys stay out of place... let it go and just be with Jesus in whatever calm you can find. I know it's SO hard to do when everything around you seems like chaos, then you go on Instagram and see all the stunning homes and Martha Stewart moms who probably have the perfect marriage... but we've all got our struggles. You do you. Take a break and sit in His presence. Pray. Read. Listen.
We are better versions of ourselves as women, as wives, as mothers, as friends when we value our spiritual life and tend to it. When we allow Jesus to seep into every bit of our lives, the chaos seems to simmer, not because life calms down, but because He brings peace into our hearts and minds. When we find this supernatural peace, we find kindness, gentleness, LOVE, grace, self control and patience. It only brings us good. It's worth the intentionality.
I promise: your soul, your kids, your husband will thank you.
“We can be tired, weary and emotionally distraught, but after spending time alone with God, we find that He injects into our bodies energy, power and strength.” Charles Stanley
"You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you." Isaiah 26:3
"Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your heart before him; God is a refuge for us. Selah." Psalm 62:8
"Look to the LORD and his strength; seek his face always." 1 Chronicles 16:11
"Study this Book of Instruction continually. Meditate on it day and night so you will be sure to obey everything written in it. Only then will you prosper and succeed in all you do." Joshua 1:8
"I rise early, before the sun is up; I cry out for help and put my hope in your words. My eyes are awake before the watches of the night, that I may meditate on your promise." Psalm 119:147-148
I'm linking a few favorite books and devotionals below along with my current worship playlist. I like to add new things I find every once in a while, so please feel free to follow and hit shuffle whenever you need a boost in your day.
Find my worship playlist HERE.